8 Strategies to Get Your Children to Listen When You Talk

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When it comes to raising children, one of the most challenging areas involves learning how to talk to our children in a way that they will listen. Although it can be frustrating to repeat your words and instructions to your children numerous times, know that they are trying their best to take in the various stimuli from their surroundings – thus it won’t be surprising if they seem to blank out or switch off every now and then.

At the end of the day, we hope to find the right balance in nurturing our children as this will reflect in the way they communicate with others. Here, we offer you some tips to help you get your message through to your children when you talk to them:

1. Connect with them at eye level

When you talk or give instructions to your child, do get down to his/her height level and maintain eye contact to get his/her attention. You can teach your child to focus and direct his/her attention towards what you are about to tell him/her by saying, “Kate, I need your eyes.”

Do the same thing when your child is trying to talk to you to assure him/her that you are listening. However, be sure not to make your eye contact too intense as your child might see it as you being commanding rather than trying to connect with him/her.

2. Keep your words brief and simple

It is common to get sidetracked and long-winded when you are talking to your child about an issue. However, the longer you ramble, the easier it is for your child to slip into a dazed state and ignore everything that you have said.

The secret to retaining your child’s attention is to keep your sentences short and brief. Do take note of how children communicate with each other to get some inspiration. It is also beneficial to observe their facial expression while you are talking to ensure that they are paying attention to what you are saying and that they understand your instructions.

3. Repeat and replay

Younger children, especially toddlers, have difficulty in making sense of directives and converting them into action, which explains the constant need to repeat your instructions to them. You can help your children internalise your message by getting them to repeat your instructions and asking them on their next course of action. For example, once your child understands that playtime is over, the next thing to do is to explain that he/she needs to clean up the mess by putting back the toys and books at the appropriate places. As your children grow up, there will be less of a need to repeat and replay your instructions to them as their processing ability gets more adept.

4. Use positive words

Threatening and judgmental sentences (e.g. “You better do this, or else…”) are bound to make your child feel hurt and discouraged, which causes them to go into defensive mode. Instead of framing the message towards your child, try using “I” messages instead – for example, “I would like you to put your toys away” or “I am so happy when you helped with the dishes”. Not only does this help your child understand your expectations better, it also works well with children who are eager to please but don’t necessarily like being ordered.

5. Give advanced notice

While some children are receptive towards the instructions given by their parents, others may need some time to process the message and comply with what is being asked of them. One of the ways you can manage this situation is to pre-empt your children on what is expected of them and give gradual instructions for them to follow.

Here are some examples to help you go through with this method:

“Bedtime is in 10 minutes. So, I need you to switch off the TV and hop into bed soon.”

“We are leaving soon. Say goodbye to teddy, and bye-bye to your friends.”

“It’s homework time. So, I need you to finish up your art and craft and clean up the table.”

6. Apply the ‘No shouting’ rule

Remember the last time you tried to get your children ready for dinner by shouting from the kitchen? This didn’t exactly get them scrambling to the dinner table, did it? Here’s another method which you might like to try instead: Walk into the room where your children are playing or studying. Using your normal tone of voice, tell them firmly that it’s almost time for dinner – then join in their activities for a few minutes before declaring a “time’s up”. By going to your child, they get the message that your request is important, rather than just ignoring your shouting from the other end of the house.

7. Ask specific questions

At times, getting your children to answer your questions might be a real struggle – you’ll either get a flat “yes” or “no”, or fail to get a response out of them at all. You can turn this situation around by asking specific questions that they lead to more than a “yes” or “no”, and to stick to topics that interest your child. For example, instead of asking the broad question of “Did you have a good day at school today?”, try asking “What was the best thing that happened to you today?” or “Tell me something that made you laugh”. You might also like to check out this article on the various questions you can ask your child to get them to talk to you about school.

8. Get your child to think

If your child does not seem to want to comply with the instructions that you give, you might want to try a reverse approach that sets them thinking instead. So, for example, instead of saying “Please do something about your messy table”, try this instead: “Think of where you would like to keep your files and textbooks so that they don’t clutter your table.” By painting a clearer picture for your child, he/she might be more likely to act on it rather than to procrastinate.

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Read also: 5 Things You Can Do to Bring Out the Best in Your Introverted Child

This article was first published on the MindChamps blog.

5 Effective Ways to Avoid Power Struggles with Children

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According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, the sense of power and dominance is a basic emotional need that we all seek to fulfill. The need to satisfy this craving for power begins as early as the age of two, as this is when children begin to see themselves as separate individuals from their parents. This phase of life leads children to discover that they are capable of creating or triggering various emotions and reactions in their parents – which also marks the start of a very long journey involving power struggles.

By three years old, most children have developed sharper skills in this area which causes parents to feel overwhelmed, overpowered and determined to set their child on the path of good behaviour. However, attempts by parents to overpower their children often leads to opposite results, leaving their children feeling more angry and defiant than ever.

Parents can turn this phase into a rewarding lesson for both themselves and their children by looking at this behaviour from a different light and responding to the battle of wills in a creative manner. Here are some suggestions to help you ease the power struggles with your children:

1. Side-step the power struggle

To deal with power struggles positively, one method which was shared by Karan Sims, instructor at the International Network for Children and Families, involves side-stepping the power struggle. In order to do this, you – as the parent – would need to refuse to give in to your child’s invitation to join his/her power struggle.

Here’s an example on how to side-step a power struggle situation:

When your pre-schooler gives you a flat “No” as an answer when you ask if he/she is ready for a bath, try your best to stay calm. You can turn the situation around by asking, “Can you walk to the bathroom with me or do you want me to carry you?” If your child is feeling cheeky, he/she might answer, “I want you to carry me – piggyback style – and gallop like a horse!”

In this case, although your child’s answer acts as the ticket for you to join a power struggle, you can side-step the situation by not fighting or giving in. You can turn the situation into a happy and loving one instead of starting yet another battle of wills when it comes to bath time. According to Sims, when you side-step the power struggle, you are telling your children, “I am not going to fight with you. I am not going to hurt you. I am not going to overpower you and I’m not going to give in either.”

2. Give choices – not orders

Once you have successfully side-stepped the power struggle, the next thing to do is to give your child choices. For example, if your child kicks up a fuss about leaving the house right away to attend swimming lessons, you can let him have a choice of which swim goggles to use. Once that is done, let him lock up by choosing which set of keys to use (assuming you have a master set and some spare sets). With this gradual transition, you have succeeded in getting your child to go for his swimming lesson and dissipate the power struggle about leaving the house.

Do ensure that the choices you give your children are ones which you can accept. For instance, when your child misbehaves while eating out, do not give him/her the choice of either sitting down quietly until everyone has finished eating or to leave the restaurant if you don’t intend to leave so soon.

It is also important to make sure that the choices you give do not represent alternatives of punishment. Thus, when you give your child an ultimatum by saying “You either clean up this mess or go to the time-out chair”, this creates fear and intimidation rather than empowerment.

3. Use more “Do” commands

“Don’t stay up too late!”

Does this sound familiar? Most of us tend to use “Don’t” commands to get our children to do what we want them to. However, most of the times, it gets us nowhere near what we want them to do in the first place. “Don’t” commands require your child to double process (“What does mum wants me to do in the first place?”) as most of what he/she gets from your message is what you don’t want him/her to do. This can be confusing and discouraging, especially for younger children.

To turn things around, parenting expert and best-selling author Amy McCready recommends that we calmly state what we want our children to do right from the start. So, rather than saying “Don’t run”, try “Please use your walking feet” instead.

4. Find alternatives for your child to be powerful

The next time you find yourself in the midst of a power struggle with your child, do find a way to give your child more power to ease the situation. For example, if your child often kicks up a fuss about buckling up in the car, you can put him/her in charge of making sure that the rest of his/her siblings are safely secured. Apart from making your child feel important, it helps to divert his/her attention away from the power struggle over buckling up.

5. Teach your child to say “No” respectfully

As parents, it is natural for us to react negatively when our children give “No” as an answer. However, the last thing we want to do is to send the message to them that they should not give “No” as an answer, as there will be times when they need to stand up for themselves in the face of peer pressure and inappropriate situations.  What you can do instead is to teach them to say “No” or to disagree in a respectful and appropriate manner. This can involve them explaining the reason behind their disagreement to help the other party understand their point of view better.

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This article was first published on the MindChamps blog.

5 Ways to Help Children Identify and Express their Emotions

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The early years are crucial for your child’s development, as it is during this time that they learn about how the world around them works. Along with their new discoveries, they also learn a lot about their feelings and how to express them in the appropriate manner.

Throughout this learning journey, things can get overwhelming for young children who are trying to understand the complexities of emotions. As a result, they may vent their frustrations through emotional outbursts or have a hard time calming down. Although you may find this situation challenging, know that it is all part of your child’s learning experience in identifying and expressing their emotions.

Here are some things you can do to help your child learn and understand their emotions better:

1. Name the feeling

The different feelings that your children go through daily may be foreign to them at first, but you can help them out by naming those feelings appropriately. For example, you could say, “Mummy has to go to work, and you are sad to say goodbye” or “You were angry that your friend snatched your favourite toy”. You can also use picture books or videos to point out the various emotions of the story’s characters to your child.

When you teach your child to name feelings when they occur, your child will build an emotional vocabulary over time and get to the point where they are able to identify those feelings and talk to you about them. This will then help them learn the basics of expressing their feelings appropriately.

2. Talk about how feelings can be expressed

The best way to teach your children to express their feelings is to set a good example yourself. Start by talking about your own feelings and describe how to best express those feelings. You can also create opportunities for your child to come up with solutions for various situations, and then discuss why they are or are not appropriate.

Here are some questions you can ask to help you get started:

  • Remember how Mummy got mad yesterday because the kitchen sink was clogged up? When I get mad, I take a deep breath, count to three, and think of the best way to solve the problem.
  • Your brother bumped his head on the wall – how do you think he feels?
  • You are frustrated because you are having a hard time putting back that box on the shelf. What can you do? I think you can either ask for help or try to do it again. What would you like to do?

3. Offer a deep nurturing connection

While babies are soothed by their parents, toddlers and pre-schoolers need to bond and feel connected to mum and dad in order to regulate and deal with their emotions. Thus, when you notice your child getting upset or overwhelmed, the best thing you can do for him/her is to reconnect and try to see things from your child’s perspective. This helps you understand the reason behind their meltdowns and allows you to respond appropriately. In fact, experts highly recommend that we hug our children when the going gets rough, as this has shown to do wonders in regulating their emotions.

4. Resist the urge to punish

Discipline methods such as spankings, time outs, giving consequences and shaming are often used to correct children’s misbehaviours, but these do nothing to help them deal with their emotions. By resorting to these methods, children get the message that their “bad” emotions are to be blamed for their misbehaviours. As a result, they try to bottle their emotions until they get to a point where it “overflows” one day through a meltdown episode.

Instead of using punishment, do help your child to process and manage their emotions in positive ways until they are able to handle it all by themselves. Leading through good example (i.e. speaking in a proper tone of voice and not yelling) and giving them activities that allow them to express their emotions (e.g. drawing and shaping with playdough) go a long way to help both of you get there.

5. Praise and practice – often!

Give praises to your child whenever he/she talks about his/her feelings. This brings across the message that he/she did the right thing and that you are proud of him/her for reaching out to you and talk about feelings.

Children should know that it is perfectly fine to express what we feel, and be given ample opportunities to respond to their feelings in appropriate ways. You can play your part in this aspect by practising strategies that will help your child express his/her emotions in various situations. For example, you can talk about feelings and coping strategies during dinner, a play date or while grocery shopping. Through the series of events that unfold in each situation, there will be opportunities for your child to express and deal with his/her feelings when interacting with others. The more your children get to do this, the faster they will learn to regulate their emotions independently.

 

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This article was first published on the MindChamps blog.

6 Habits of Happy Parents – How to Find Joy in Parenting

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Amidst our duty to raise successful children, finding joy in parenting may pose as a challenge. As parents, our children are the centre of our universe and we take great joy in seeing them live in their happy moments. Apart from the effort we put in to raise them to be happy, well-adjusted individuals, psychologists confirm that parents have a great role to play to set a good example to their children on how to live a happy, fulfilling life.

As with most things in life, living life to the fullest is easier said than done – especially when raising children comes with a whole new set of challenges. To help you fill your life with joy and love and to achieve a great balance in parenting, we offer you the following tips:

1. Get help when it’s needed

When it comes to parenting, there’s always an endless list of things to do in a day – from arranging your children’s pick-up and drop-off from school to making sure that meals are prepared for the family and that the house is in order. Add in a full-time job to the equation, and getting it all done by yourself could prove to be challenging and may leave you worn out and unsatisfied by the end of the day.

Here’s how to do it: As the saying goes, “It takes a village to raise a child” – know that parenting and running a household need not be a two-person show and that it is perfectly fine to get help when it is needed. This could involve asking for help from family and friends or getting a live-in helper or nanny who can share the load of house chores and childcare with you.

2. Set aside some time for fun!

Giving your children the greatest life lessons and experiences does not need to be a serious affair. In fact, renowned educator Maria Montessori once said that “Play is the work of the child” and it is through play that children learn best about the world around them during the early years. So, here’s a reminder for you to inject some fun in the activities that you plan for your children throughout the week. After all, this also gives you the chance to destress, recharge and feel good about life all over again.

Here’s how to do it: Plan for some fun activities during the week that serve a learning purpose to your children. This includes the likes of exploring the Singapore Botanic Gardens where they get to learn and experience nature first-hand, or taking a trip to the museum for an educational journey about our country and its humble beginnings.

3. Be happy with what you have

The grass may be greener over the other side, but that does not necessarily mean that having the best things in life – for example, better-behaved children, a bigger house, or nicer car – will make you happier. The key to your happiness lies in counting your blessings in life instead of focusing on what you deem as the “shortfalls”. For all you know, you might be living the dream life in the eyes of someone else.

Here’s how to do it: Resist the temptation to compare your children to that of your friends, or to check their growth and development against the “standard guidelines”. Every child develops differently and at their own pace, with unique strengths and weaknesses. Focus on those instead and work together with your child based on where his/her passion and interests lie to help him/her become the best that he/she can be. At the same time, do not neglect your spouse. Make time for quality bonding sessions to keep your marriage and relationship alive – this also gives both of you the opportunity to recharge and carry out the role as parents to your children.

4. Be flexible with the rules

Rules are created to teach your children values such as self-discipline and learn the value of giving our best in everything that we do. However, as the person who decides on the rules, you get the flexibility to tailor those rules to each of your child’s needs and personalities. As it is often said that when it comes to parenting, there isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution that will apply for all children – our job is to nurture them based on their abilities and do our best to impart good values and important life lessons to them.

Here’s how to do it: Get to know the strengths and weaknesses of your child and what motivates them to move forward. For example, your five-year-old might be motivated with screen time upon completing the day’s activity sheets, while the only push factor to get your seven-year-old to complete his/her homework is a healthy snack. You can use their likes and preferences as a hook to encourage learning and to create happy moments at home with your children – just as long as you are consistent in applying them

5. Focus on what lies ahead

We all have parenting goals that we work towards to and we try our best to do the right things when raising our children. However, during the toughest times, we either find ourselves losing our temper, being inconsistent and/or blaming ourselves for not doing a better job at raising our children. In line with the popular idiom, “Let bygones be bygones”, sometimes we need to remind ourselves to let go of past mistakes and focus instead on what you can do to be there for your children during the crucial growing up years.

Here’s how to do it: We are all learning to be the best that we can be for our children, and that there are days when things do not go as planned. Do let those tough days go and get on with life as a mum or dad by thinking of what to do next instead of pondering on what has been done. This can involve spending quality time with your children to get to know them better or plan a fun family bonding activity for the weekend.

Whatever you choose to do, remember that these tough moments will not last forever and with this, the highlights of parenting your children while they are young (i.e. the frequent “I love you” that they say so willingly) will be rare as the years go by. So, do use this time to cherish the precious moments and carry on with the journey.

6. Make time for hugs and kisses

Here’s another great reason to plough through the toughest moments of parenting while your children are young. As mentioned before, these moments do not last long and at this age, they can be easily diffused with something as simple as a hug and kiss. Apart from melting the tension from the situation, hugging and kissing also helps to spread those “feel good” feelings between you and your child.

Here’s how to do it: Gather your child for a cuddle every chance you get, even when they are unhappy or are adamant at throwing tantrums for as long as possible. You’ll be surprised how quickly this can turn around a sticky situation. But do note thatthis “secret weapon” may not work for long as your child grows up – so, seize the moment and use it to your advantage while you can!

This article was first published on the MindChamps blog.

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Communicating With Your Pre-schooler – Fostering Effective Communication and Social Skills (Part 4)

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Golden Rule #4: Develop strategies for Controlling Negative Emotions in Any Situation

When emotions (yours or your child’s) create a barrier to resolving a situation, it is important to have strategies in place, to ‘defuse’ the moment.

1. Especially in times of crisis, or when they are ‘in trouble’, don’t ‘stand over’ your child.

Standing over your child may well win reluctant obedience, but our aim is to guide and share, rather than dictate and dominate.  Instead, physically try and get down to your child’s level (crouch, sit on a low stool or on the floor), then talk.  For an excellent example of this approach, watch a really good kindergarten teacher in operation.

2. If you are very upset or angry about a behaviour or an incident, allow some ‘time out’ to calm yourself down and regain control before ‘dealing’ with the incident.

Emotional responses are never as effective as considered ones.  Though you might feel the need to address the incident immediately, it is far better to deal with it effectively and with a positive resolution, than to take action that is fuelled by unmanaged emotion.

As a guide, it takes about 20 minutes for a heightened emotional state to subside, as long as there is an absence of further aggravation.

Give your child some time on his/her own, to think about what has occurred, and then find a way to disperse the anger before discussing the incident. Say something non-threatening like “We both need some time to calm down and think a little bit about what happened.  When we are both calm we can have a talk about it”.

3. Avoid asking “Why?” as your first question

“Why” is usually interpreted as an accusation demanding an excuse and puts the child on the defensive.

Begin by simply asking “What happened?” and follow with something like “Tell me all you can” or “How did you feel”. The “Why?” question will follow naturally, but without forcing the justification – which may be unclear.

Questions which draw out the truth without accusation reduce the level of ‘threat’ the child is feeling and lead to a resolution far more efficiently than threats or badgering.

 

What should you do if you suspect that your child is lying to you? Read on for more tips on the next page.

Communicating With Your Pre-schooler – Fostering Effective Communication and Social Skills (Part 2)

From birth, our children are actually ‘hard-wired’ to respond to a smile with positive emotion. It banishes fear or insecurity, and says, ‘I am here for you. Nothing you have to say can change the way I feel about you.’

So remember, whatever you want to say to your child, begin with a smile…

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Golden Rule Number Two: Give Your Full Attention to All the Possibilities in a Communication Situation – No Matter What the Distractions.

Confidence is the key to success. By far the best way for a parent to build confidence in a young child is to show them respect, acknowledge that they are important and that what they have to say is important.

We cannot hope to guide or inspire if our children think we do not care – or that their concerns are not important enough to warrant our total attention.

Whether we are communicating face-to-face, or just wish our child to know how we feel about them, focusing on all manner of communication modes is the key to effective inspiration.

Paying Attention

If you are reading or watching TV, stop and make it obvious that you are stopping willingly to talk about something ‘more important’.

Communication is primarily an emotional activity. By stopping what you are doing, and giving your child your full attention, you are giving the right emotional signal to open up strong communication channels.

If it is impossible to talk at the moment your child approaches you, it is important that they understand that it is no reflection on their importance, but simply a result of circumstances. Following up on the conversation as soon as possible afterwards reassures the child, and shows that you respect them and their issues.

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The Power of Touch

Young children are very kinesthetic. A touch or a hug can communicate as much positive emotion as any words.

Social signals can be confusing – especially for the young – but the meaning of a touch is generally unambiguous.

A hand laid softly on the arm or the shoulder; the backs of the fingers touching or running softly down the cheek; holding the child’s gaze while taking his head gently in both hands and drawing him towards you until your foreheads meet; a protective hug in times of high emotion – these are almost universally effective gestures of love and support, even in families which do not usually practice them.

One common symptom of dysfunctionality within a family is the inability of family members to display warmth and affection through tactile displays.

Smiling

Most people underestimate the power of a smile. A smile opens up the channels of communication – even with total strangers – because it communicates at a non-conscious level.

From birth, our children are actually ‘hard-wired’ to respond to a smile with positive emotion. It banishes fear or insecurity, and says, ‘I am here for you. Nothing you have to say can change the way I feel about you.’

So remember, whatever you want to say to your child, begin with a smile…

Find ‘Private Time’ for Important Moments

The best time for communication between you and your child is when no one else is around. It means they only have to focus on one person, without splitting their attention.

Only involve other parties if there is some specific reason why they need to be involved. Young children feel less ‘pressured’ one-on-one.

 

To Sum Up:

When you wish to really communicate with your child, or when they really want to communicate with you:

  • Pay attention to the conversation and to your child as an important individual
  • Be free with hugs and other tactile signs of affection
  • Teach yourself to smile
  • Maintain a sense of privacy between you and your child

 

This article is a modified excerpt from the book Pre-school Parenting Secrets – Talking with the Sky. Get the book here.

Suggested Reading: Communicating With Your Pre-schooler – Fostering Effective Communication and Social Skills (Part 1)

Communicating With Your Pre-schooler – Fostering Effective Communication and Social Skills (Part 1)

As parents, we create a home environment which supplies our children with the raw materials from which they can construct a Champion Mindset. Part of this mindset involves developing highly effective communication skills, which most experts agree will be their most valuable asset in the world of the 21st century.

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We are our children’s role models for effective communication. How we communicate is of crucial importance for their language development and for the development of their world view.

The key to effective communication is that as parents, we must keep the channels of communication open between ourselves and our children. This means we need to talk to them, every day and about everything.

The main benefits of open channels of communication are:

  • Enhancing attachment and bonding between parents and their children
  • Developing your child’s sense of belonging and their self-esteem
  • Increasing your child’s emotional intelligence and resilience
  • Being able to inspire and guide our children especially during times when they are under pressure

What is the best way to communicate with pre-school children?

At MindChamps, we have developed four ‘golden rules of communication’. Over the next few weeks, we will discuss these golden rules in detail through our series of ‘Communicating with Your Pre-schooler’ articles.

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Golden Rule Number One: Be Aware of your Pre-schooler’s ‘Processing Limitations’

Pre-school children have not yet developed the strategies to cope with complexity and stress as well as adults. The pre-frontal cortex of their brain is still developing, and they are far more likely to respond with their ‘unthinking’ emotions than with their logical faculties when challenges arise.

Controlling the Situation

As the adult, you must be the one to control emotional situations, and avoid creating unnecessary frustration. Inspiration is about empowering the young person to achieve and you can do this only if you are communicating effectively – and without misunderstanding.

To enable and encourage your children to face their challenges successfully, you need to communicate with them in ways that are emotionally intelligent. This means that you are sensitive to their emotions and have the capacity to control your own emotions. It is particularly important for a parent to respond with emotional intelligence in potentially ‘emotional’ situations such as when your child has misbehaved or is in the middle of a squabble with a sibling.

Typically when a child has misbehaved, a parent may seek to quickly find out the truth of the situation. We may ask a number of questions one after the other.  Asking two questions in quick succession, such as “What are you doing with that?” and “Why did you get it out of my cupboard?” will more likely cause a young child to ‘short circuit’ – both cognitively and emotionally.

If you are lucky, your child may be able to answer one of the above questions, but more likely they will ‘freeze’ or stutter as they start to formulate an answer to the first question, only to have the thought process interrupted by the second.

As adults, we have the ‘parallel-processing circuitry’ to be able to handle both questions simultaneously and then order our responses. It is a necessary skill for a complex and fast-moving world, which we have developed through years of practice and experience. Young children have not yet developed this capacity.

So the golden rule when asking your child questions is to ask one at a time. And once you have asked that one question, count to three in your mind to give your pre-schooler time to answer. Using this method will reduce the stress in communication, especially in emotional situations.

 

This article is a modified excerpt from the book Pre-school Parenting Secrets – Talking with the Sky. Get the book here.