“Your kids require you most of all to love them for who they are, not to spend your whole time trying to correct them.” – Bill Ayers
As parents, we are aware of the importance of disciplining our children. As we try to instil good values in them to set them off on the path to good behaviour, we soon realise that disciplining a child is no walk in the park.
While there are many methods of disciplining children, there is the ‘Rubber Band method of discipline’ which we highly recommend you give a try – this might just be what you need to get your children to respond to you positively!
What is the ‘Rubber Band Method of Discipline’?
Contrary to what the name implies, this method of discipline does not involve flicking rubber bands at your children when they misbehave. Instead, the rubber bands are for you and they serve as reminders to put love above all else when handling trying moments with your children.
Here’s how the method works:
- Place 3 rubber bands on your right wrist at the start of the day.
- As you go through the day, make it a point to praise your child at least 3 times instead of resorting to threats and time-outs.
- For each time that you praise your child, move a rubber band to your left wrist.
- At the end of the day, take note of how many rubber bands there are on your left wrist – these indicate your progress in disciplining your children with love.
How to get started
Say for instance you are trying to get your children ready for bath time and dinner thereafter. Despite your reminders, they insist on continuing with their colouring activity. You are running out of patience and in your mind, the easiest way to handle this is to raise your voice at them.
Before you get there, take a deep breath to calm down and suggest to your children that they could continue their colouring activity after dinner. They will respond to your suggestion positively and when that happens, shift a rubber band to your left wrist.
The remaining rubber bands on your right wrist are reminders to praise your children during the day while the one on your left wrist acts like a “feel good” motivator to encourage you.
What can we learn from adopting this rubber band method of discipline with our children? Find out more on the next page…